Rob and I got married in August 2016, and with our first anniversary approaching I've been thinking back over the hectic two months we spent planning our little wedding last summer. The whole shebang went really well and apart from Rob forgetting the music for the ceremony (leaving me walking down the aisle in silence!) nothing went wrong and we had a blast.
If you're planning a wedding, or if you're recently engaged, hopefully these 5 tips will help you prepare for your big day.
1. Find yourself an over excited groom who is really in to planning stuff.
I took care of the wedding and reception venues, and Rob was happy to take over entertainment, invitations and favours (though we won't talk about the last minute rush the night before the wedding to actually buy the favours). I was pretty pregnant when we got married and with a 15 month old to look after my days were already full on and I just didn't have time to organise every detail of a wedding. There was no way our wedding would have gone ahead if we hadn't worked as a team to get everything done.
2. Keep it simple.
It seems obvious, but the fewer things you have to arrange, the easier your planning will be. The best thing you can do is figure out what is important to you, and forget all the things that aren't. It's far too easy to get swept away in a wedding planning whirlwind and end up crying in to a glass of wine (or water if you're knocked up like I was) about the colour of your guest book. Just don't do it to yourself. If it's not something you'll remember in a years time, it's probably not that important.
3. Don't sweat the small stuff.
Things don't have to be perfect. There is this big stigma of your perfect day, your perfect dress, the perfect wedding breakfast. I've been told by quite a few people that what they remember most about their wedding was planning it, so I sacked off the idea of everything being perfect and aimed to enjoy the day just as it was. A few things went wrong, but nobody else noticed or cared and neither did we.
4. Accept offers of help.
Helpful friends and relatives definitely make things easier when you're wedding planning. A friend made our table decorations for us, my mum helped with the cake and bouquets, my mother in law helped with shopping and arranged for me to have my nails done. All these things and plenty more meant that mine and Rob's list was way smaller, and everyone was more than happy to muck in with the planning.
5. Give yourself time.
This is the one tip we didn't follow. We planned our wedding in about 8 weeks, while I was pregnant, and the eldest was about to start school. It wasn't the most dreadful experience but it did mean that our weekends were taken over with shopping and organising. A couple more months would have been a great help – but never mind! We survived and it was more than worth it. I loved everything about our simple, quickly arranged wedding and I wouldn't change a thing.
Did you enjoy planning your wedding? What advice would you give to someone that is just starting to plan theirs?